Never Too Old, Never Too Late

All of us have dreams we would like to bring to fruition, preferably sooner than later; however, we tend to rationalize why we are not taking the necessary steps to transform those dreams into realities. And if we’re not exactly spring chickens, one of our favorite excuses is we’re too old to start something new.

Well … I’m here to tell you this: You are never too old to fulfill your aspirations.

But there are several elements you need to be aware of to increase your chances for success. So, grab a cup of coffee and let’s get started.

Stop making excuses – You are no longer allowed to formulate reasons why you “can’t.” Please stop it.

Have a plan – Take the time to draft a plan of action, making sure to include specific details about your dream, a realistic timeframe, and any prerequisites that need to be tackled. If you don’t have a roadmap, how are you going to reach your destination?

Look for examples – Perform some research and unearth people that have already made their dreams a reality. Take detailed notes as to how they managed to achieve those goals. Because of modern technology, you have access to more information—including cat videos—than ever before. Use it to your advantage.

Receive advice sparingly – Learn to discern between constructive criticism and negative comments people make regarding you or your goals. Even individuals with the best intentions can supply unnecessary negativity, but you can disregard that advice. Period.

Ask for help – When you hit a roadblock, and it will happen at some point, reach out to someone for assistance. (No, it will not make you look weak.) If you genuinely desire to make your dream a reality, swallow your pride and ask for assistance. Guidance from a friend, trusted coworker, or a successful individual can be priceless.

Now, before the day concludes, go out there and be a game-changer. Make all of your dreams come true … one step at a time.

Do Something Different

Are you consistently feeling bored with your life, always wishing for some exciting event to occur? If the answer to the question is yes, you need to examine your daily routine. … Are you living your life on autopilot? Are you driving the same way to work, eating the same salad for lunch, going out to dinner at the same place on the same night every week, and having the same arguments with your children/husband/significant other?

If this describes your existence, more or less, you need to make some serious changes.

You see . . . people become comfortable with routines that allow them to use hardly any brainpower, to avoid conflict, and maintain a state of inertia. It’s just human nature. But that doesn’t mean it’s healthy. Furthermore, it’s a guaranteed method to ensure you and everyone around you is miserable.

Commit to reviving your life by getting out of your comfort zone. Try an activity you’ve never dared to attempt. Start a conversation with someone at the coffee shop, making sure to smile and genuinely listen to their words. Join a local group and attend meetings—maybe making some new friends in the process.

Just stop making excuses and take the first step.

Readers Are Leaders

Reading is an excellent method for improving your knowledge, vocabulary, writing, and reading, of course. Unfortunately, most people spend little or no time perusing the latest bestseller; in fact, the majority of individuals would rather watch television or spend time on Facebook. And no, reading Instagram snippets doesn’t count as “real” reading.

As a result, we are starting to observe the negative consequence in our young people: children are struggling with reading comprehension, many colleges are reporting first-year students are unprepared for writing assignments at the collegiate level, and evaluations have demonstrated that kids’ vocabulary is shrinking.

Parents must make a concerted effort to increase the amount of time their children spend reading outside of the classroom. Your child’s future is at stake. Furthermore, it wouldn’t hurt if mom and dad picked up a book now and again because kids are natural imitators.

So, teach your offspring that reading is an enjoyable leisure activity—something most adults appear to have forgotten. Purchase them fiction or nonfiction books. Have them read magazine articles. You could even rediscover the library together. Yes, you might have to limit the video games, but that is a positive thing.

Whatever is takes parents . . . whatever it takes.

Remember: Someone’s Effort Is a Reflection of Their Interest in You

The year 2020 is here; therefore, it’s time to begin making positive changes in your life. After all, nothing says new year like crafting a new you, right? So, today I want to provide you some information to contemplate.

Individuals that consistently demonstrate a lack of interest in you—by clearly showing an absence of effort—are telling you something. “You are not important to me.

What do I mean by that statement? The best way to answer your question is with a couple of examples. (Note: These are just examples, and any resemblance between these characters and actual people is purely coincidental.)

Example 1 – Tammy has a girlfriend named Sally. Now, Tammy is always making plans to spend time with her friend Sally, calling her on the phone, and including her in family activities (e.g., birthday parties, bowling with the kids). However, Sally rarely calls Tammy or invites her to any event. Moreover, when Sally does show up to functions in which Tammy has invited her, Sally is always running late, forgetting items she committed to bringing, or spending time on her phone.

Example 2 – Tom has a brother by the name of Bob. Once or twice a month, Tom invites his brother to dinner, but Bob never accepts the invitation. More often than not, Bob never even returns Tom’s calls or e-mails. Furthermore, when the two meet at their parents’ house for Christmas or Thanksgiving, Bob only talks about himself and his problems—never asking about Tom or his children.

The examples above depicted a friend and brother; nevertheless, these instances could have included a girlfriend/boyfriend, coworker/boss, or husband/wife. The message is the same regardless of the relationship: There is a direct correlation between the amount of effort someone exerts in a relationship and their interest in you.

Therefore, unless it’s your husband, wife, or child, you need to make a decision regarding the individuals in your life who are putting forth little or no effort. One-sided relationships are not healthy for either person involved. You might want to consider removing Sally or Bob from your life. And if it is a familial relationship, you need to communicate your feelings and possibly seek counseling from a professional.

Happy New Year

As you’re reading this post, the New Year is either already here or just around the corner. Either way, I cannot believe 2020 is upon us. Wow! As a child I would have thought this to be the epoch of Buck Rodgers or something.

Anyway, I want to wish everyone a very Happy New Year.

Please, be safe, be happy, be kind. Take this opportunity to start the year with an improved outlook on life. And if you’re going to make some New Year’s resolutions, here are a couple of outstanding ideas: 1) Make a commitment to work harder and achieve more for yourself and your family. 2) Resolve to treat other people with love and respect—even if they do not reciprocate.

God bless you all!

Remember to Be Grateful

I’d be willing to venture that some of you didn’t get precisely everything you wanted for Christmas. Maybe Santa forgot the state-of-the-art gaming console, or the two-carat diamond ring never made it under the tree. Perhaps money was a little scarce for some individuals this holiday season.

At times like these, it’s particularly important to be grateful for all you’ve been blessed with—regardless of your situation. Otherwise, you will become discontent every time your cravings are not met. And that, my friends, is a recipe for disaster.

You see . . . being replete with gratitude is the passport to contentment. In the words of Pharrell Williams, “It’s not possible to experience constant euphoria, but if you’re grateful, you can find happiness in everything.” (More accurate words have never been spoken.)

Therefore, if you desire a life filled with happiness, first you must learn to be grateful in each and every situation. Then, and only then, will you be truly content. As a result, you might not need to replace your smartphone every year, the car you’re driving might suffice for now, or your costume jewelry might shine a little brighter.