Throughout my adult life, I’ve heard friends, family, coworkers, etc., express their appreciation for honesty in people. But are individuals who proclaim their gratitude for truthfulness actually telling the truth?
Sure, I think we can all agree there are times when judiciousness is required when expressing your opinion. For example, when a husband asks his spouse about his weight, she might not need to be entirely candid. Or when a girlfriend inquires as to your love of her bland and overcooked pot roast, your first words should be: it’s delicious, dear.
Courteousness aside, do people really want truth most of the time?
The short answer to that question is: it depends on the individual. Not all people are mentally and emotionally matured enough to handle the cold, hard truth, and others are so convinced of their reality that truth is of absolutely no importance to them.
So, the point to remember is, when dealing with human beings, you must understand the individual and their idiosyncrasies. And if there is any uncertainty as to how a person will react to the “facts,” it would behoove you to error on the side of caution. In other words, save the drama for the soap operas.
I’m not asserting that you directly lie to someone, put them in jeopardy, or compromise your principles; however, there are times when you have to keep your mouth shut. Diplomacy is a skill necessary for a peaceful life.
(Words once spoken cannot be unspoken.)
Here is an interesting article at Time you might want to read regarding the subject: Honesty Isn’t Always the Best Policy in Relationships. Here’s When Experts Say It Might Be Better to Lie