As a human being you have to make decisions on an hourly basis, and some of those decisions can have long-lasting repercussions, not just for you, but also for those around you. So it’s no wonder why some people have difficulty making a choice when faced with a fork in the road; however, with a clear plan and some practice, the act of making a decision doesn’t have to be complicated or paralyzing.
Before we get started let’s categorize decisions into three types:
Unimportant – These are the choices you make that have little or no significance. Examples of these type of decisions are what you will eat for breakfast/lunch/dinner; which outfit you’ll wear to work or to an event; and how often you should wash your car.
Important – These are choices that have moderate impact on your life and comprise the majority of your decisions. Examples are the types of friends you choose to surround yourself with; the sizable purchases you make, like automobiles or houses; the schools you choose to attend or send your children to; and the employment opportunities you take.
Extremely Important – Decisions in this category are unequaled and have enormous influence on you and people around you. Example are accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior; choosing a spouse to spend the rest of your life with; and making the decision to have children.
Note: We could have categorized decisions into additional types, but I like to keep things simple and easy to remember. Also, your individual situation may call for modest adjustments.
With that out of the way, let’s outline a decision-making strategy so that you’re prepared for those moments before you encounter them. That way you feel empowered to confidently make choices without unnecessary discomfort.
First, for unimportant decisions, it’s really simple. Make a selection and don’t give it another thought. Period.
Second, for important decisions, start by going to God in prayer. Next, study God’s Word—looking for wisdom and guidance with your particular subject. And then use research and personal experience to finalize your choice.
Lastly, for extremely important decisions, begin with the steps for important decisions but add time to the equation. Yes, the extremely important decisions take time. … You have to allow yourself adequate time to count the cost, “For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?” (Luke 14:28 KJV).
And that’s all there is to it. You now have a plan of action for the next time you’re faced with making a decision. Moreover, you’ll be able to make that decision with confidence because you were prepared for the fork in the road. By the way, preparation will relieve a ton of anxiety.
On a final note: people are not perfect, and you will inevitably make mistakes. The key here is, when you do make a mistake, take ownership of that error and come back to your plan to manage the situation. Don’t redouble bad circumstances by blaming someone else or making snap judgements.